Retroactive Sexual Jealousy: Talk Therapy to Redefine Masculinity and Sexuality

Feeling jealous about your girlfriend or boyfriend’s, wife or husband’s sexual history can lead to obsessive thinking, suspiciousness or controlling behaviour. For some guys it’s related to sexual performance anxiety. But Retroactive Jealousy, as it is sometimes called, is usually not a sign that the relationship is under threat from another party. This sexual jealousy… Continue reading Retroactive Sexual Jealousy: Talk Therapy to Redefine Masculinity and Sexuality

Alpha Males, Pick Up Artists, Red Pill, Game: Reflections on Masculinity and Sexual Relations Between Men and Women

Recently I visited Devils at Cradle, a sanctuary for Tasmanian devils (Sarcophilus harisii). These Tassie devils are carnivorous scavengers of the food-chain, feeding on dead and injured wildlife including the carcasses of their own. They’ll even eat smaller devils when hungry enough. To watch them snarling, screaming and fighting over food and sex is both… Continue reading Alpha Males, Pick Up Artists, Red Pill, Game: Reflections on Masculinity and Sexual Relations Between Men and Women

Healthy Sexuality and Sexual Addiction: Two Ideas Worth Exploring

I was recently contacted by a student who was writing a paper about ‘sexual addiction’ for a college course on sexuality. As a counsellor and therapist in private practice, I’m not usually in a position to offer so much assistance to students (I receive many requests and my time with people is my livelihood) but… Continue reading Healthy Sexuality and Sexual Addiction: Two Ideas Worth Exploring

Therapy and Treatment for Gay Mens Depression

Is Depression more common amongst gay men? I often see this question or similar in counselling forums on Facebook and elsewhere on the net. And as a mental health counsellor who has worked with gay men for much of my career, it’s tempting to jump in with an answer. But what concerns me is what… Continue reading Therapy and Treatment for Gay Mens Depression

What is Bisexuality? And how do I know if I’m Bi?

Individual attraction to both men and women has only been described as ‘bisexuality’ for about 100 years. What happened before that? Were people either straight or gay? I wasn’t around but I doubt it. Human sexuality is diverse and complex and always has been. It’s just our meanings and ideas about sex that remain confined.… Continue reading What is Bisexuality? And how do I know if I’m Bi?