Category: Masculinity
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Masculinity Crisis: Stuck in the Manosphere Shame Loop
Am I masculine enough? Strong enough? Successful enough? Desired enough? The masculinity crisis is real and affecting male mental health. Many men who feel this way start searching for answers online, wondering if something is wrong with them, their masculinity, or even their biology. For some men, these questions sit quietly in the background. For…
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Retroactive Sexual Jealousy: Talk Therapy to Redefine Masculinity and Sexuality
Feeling jealous about your girlfriend or boyfriend’s, wife or husband’s sexual history can lead to obsessive thinking, suspiciousness or controlling behaviour. For some guys it’s related to sexual performance anxiety. But Retroactive Sexual Jealousy, as it is sometimes called, is usually not a sign that the relationship is under threat from another party. This sexual…
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How to Treat ‘Sex Addiction’: The Role of the Therapist
Is sex addiction really a legitimate mental health problem or just an excuse for sleeping around? That was the question Tom Tilley used to open the Hack Live Sex Addicts programme shown on Australia’s public tv broadcaster the ABC this week. I’m sure a lot of viewers were hoping to get a handle on their…
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Alpha Males, Pick Up Artists, Red Pill, Game: Reflections on Masculinity and Sexual Relations Between Men and Women
Recently I visited Devils at Cradle, a sanctuary for Tasmanian devils (Sarcophilus harisii). These Tassie devils are carnivorous scavengers of the food-chain, feeding on dead and injured wildlife including the carcasses of their own. They’ll even eat smaller devils when hungry enough. To watch them snarling, screaming and fighting over food and sex is both…
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Are You Man Enough? Does Masculinity Therapy Work for Porn Addiction, Anger and Violence?
Porn Addiction recovery groups for men sound like a good idea. Telling your story to a supportive audience is an effective way to gain more influence over your life. But what about challenging men to be more manly? Is this kind of ‘masculinity therapy’ really in the interests of men trapped by gender expectations? Or…