Category: Pornography Addiction
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Adult Virgin? Reclaim Your Confidence and Overcome Shame
Being an Adult Virgin—a term often used to describe people who have not had sex into their late twenties, thirties, forties or later—can feel particularly isolating, especially for men. It’s the shame of an internal critic that whispers, You should have had sex by now. Adult virginity is not the kind of story often told…
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Coaching for Productivity: Procrastination vs Perfectionism
Coaching for productivity is an approach I take with people who meet with me for therapy around perfectionism and procrastination. As a counsellor who specialises in working with ‘pornography addiction’, procrastination is something I hear about often. Perfectionism often comes up in my conversations with gay men who feel ‘not good enough’ despite striving for…
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Treatment for Pornography ‘Addiction’ to Recover Mental Health
Treatment for pornography ‘addiction’ is increasingly in demand. Compulsive use of harmful pornography can be destructive to your mental health, your relationships, and your sexual functioning. The Internet and smartphones have exposed an entire generation to violent, abusive pornography from an early age. Realising you have a problem with using pornography might lead you to…
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Do I Have OCD? What It Means to be Obsessed or Fixated and How to Get Help
In these unsettling pandemic times, many are questioning their mental health. OCD – Obsessive Compulsive Disorder – is a condition gaining more attention. Some people find they can’t stop thinking about an event or behaviour that is starting to disrupt their life. But what does it really mean to experience OCD and how do you…
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How to Treat ‘Sex Addiction’: The Role of the Therapist
Is sex addiction really a legitimate mental health problem or just an excuse for sleeping around? That was the question Tom Tilley used to open the Hack Live Sex Addicts programme shown on Australia’s public tv broadcaster the ABC this week. I’m sure a lot of viewers were hoping to get a handle on their…
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Sex and Performance Anxiety: Listening to the Body to Quieten the Brain
Erectile dysfunction. Body Dysmorphia. Sex and Porn Addiction. The common factor is they all involve a man’s relationship with his body. Sensations in our bodies can tell us not only what we are experiencing but what we need to do to feel comfortable. The trouble comes when we forget to listen to them, or don’t…