Sex and Performance Anxiety: Listening to the Body to Quieten the Brain

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Erectile dysfunction. Body Dysmorphia. Sex and Porn Addiction. The common factor is they all involve a man’s relationship with his body. Sensations in our bodies can tell us not only what we are experiencing but what we need to do to feel comfortable. The trouble comes when we forget to listen to them, or don’t… Continue reading Sex and Performance Anxiety: Listening to the Body to Quieten the Brain

Alpha Males, Pick Up Artists, Red Pill, Game: Reflections on Masculinity and Sexual Relations Between Men and Women

Recently I visited Devils at Cradle, a sanctuary for Tasmanian devils (Sarcophilus harisii). These Tassie devils are carnivorous scavengers of the food-chain, feeding on dead and injured wildlife including the carcasses of their own. They’ll even eat smaller devils when hungry enough. To watch them snarling, screaming and fighting over food and sex is both… Continue reading Alpha Males, Pick Up Artists, Red Pill, Game: Reflections on Masculinity and Sexual Relations Between Men and Women

What is Bisexuality? And how do I know if I’m Bi?

Individual attraction to both men and women has only been described as ‘bisexuality’ for about 100 years. What happened before that? Were people either straight or gay? I wasn’t around but I doubt it. Human sexuality is diverse and complex and always has been. It’s just our meanings and ideas about sex that remain confined.… Continue reading What is Bisexuality? And how do I know if I’m Bi?

Psychoanalysis or Quick Fix: What is the Most Effective Approach to Sex Therapy?

What is the best approach to sex therapy? Psychoanalysis or brief, solution focussed counselling? Or is there an alternative? What should I look for in a sex therapist? Sex Therapists Online: It’s the Relationship That Counts Before people start trying to find a sex therapist online, it’s common for them to reading comparisons between short-term,… Continue reading Psychoanalysis or Quick Fix: What is the Most Effective Approach to Sex Therapy?