Do I Have OCD? What It Means to be Obsessed or Fixated and How to Get Help
In these unsettling pandemic times, many are questioning their mental health. OCD – Obsessive Compulsive Disorder – is a condition gaining more attention. Some people find they can’t stop thinking about an event or behaviour that is starting to disrupt their life. But what does it really mean to experience OCD and how do you […]
Are You Man Enough? Does Masculinity Therapy Work for Porn Addiction, Anger and Violence?
Porn Addiction recovery groups for men sound like a good idea. Telling your story to a supportive audience has been demonstrated as an effective way to gain more influence over your life. But what about challenging men to be more manly? Is this kind of ‘masculinity therapy’ really in the interests of men trapped by […]
Healthy Sexuality and Sexual Addiction: Two Ideas Worth Exploring
I was recently contacted by a student who was writing a paper about ‘sexual addiction’ for a college course on sexuality. As a counsellor and therapist in private practice, I’m not usually in a position to offer so much assistance to students (I receive many requests and my time with people is my livelihood) but […]
Is this Sex Addiction? Questioning ‘Sex Addiction’ in Therapy and Counselling Conversations
This paper examines the concept of ‘sex addiction’, and its increasing popularity since the emergence of AIDS in gay communities in the 1980s. Adopting narrative therapy’s ethical orientations of decentred yet influential positioning, and being in a ‘lifelong apprenticeship’, the author worked with a number of men to renegotiate their relationship with ‘sex addiction’ in […]
Psychoanalysis or Quick Fix: What is the Most Effective Approach to Sex Therapy?
What is the best approach to sex therapy? Psychoanalysis or brief, solution focussed counselling? Or is there an alternative? What should I look for in a sex therapist? Sex Therapists Online: It’s the Relationship That Counts Before people start trying to find a sex therapist online, it’s common for them to reading comparisons between short-term, […]
Help Me, I’m Wasting Time Looking at Pornography!
Wasting time is one reason people contact me for help to stop or cut back on looking at sexually explicit images and videos. There are other reasons too. And there are reasons people start to use pornography in the first place. Opening up about about your relationship with pornography is a first step you can […]