Retroactive Sexual Jealousy: Talk Therapy to Redefine Masculinity and Sexuality

Feeling jealous about your girlfriend or boyfriend’s, wife or husband’s sexual history can lead to obsessive thinking, suspiciousness or controlling behaviour. For some guys it’s related to sexual performance anxiety. But Retroactive Jealousy, as it is sometimes called, is usually not a sign that the relationship is under threat from another party. This sexual jealousy… Continue reading Retroactive Sexual Jealousy: Talk Therapy to Redefine Masculinity and Sexuality

Is this Sex Addiction? Questioning ‘Sex Addiction’ in Therapy and Counselling Conversations

This paper examines the concept of ‘sex addiction’, and its increasing popularity since the emergence of AIDS in gay communities in the 1980s. Adopting narrative therapy’s ethical orientations of decentred yet influential positioning, and being in a ‘lifelong apprenticeship’, the author worked with a number of men to renegotiate their relationship with ‘sex addiction’ in… Continue reading Is this Sex Addiction? Questioning ‘Sex Addiction’ in Therapy and Counselling Conversations

What is Bisexuality? And how do I know if I’m Bi?

Individual attraction to both men and women has only been described as ‘bisexuality’ for about 100 years. What happened before that? Were people either straight or gay? I wasn’t around but I doubt it. Human sexuality is diverse and complex and always has been. It’s just our meanings and ideas about sex that remain confined.… Continue reading What is Bisexuality? And how do I know if I’m Bi?

Benefits of Online Counselling for Men who are Gay and Married (to a woman) or Older Men Coming Out

If you are a man in your forties, fifties or older, taking the first steps towards identifying as gay or bisexual can feel difficult and frightening. You are not alone. Many men have made this journey before you. And therapy with a supportive and affirming gay counsellor over webcam or through telephone counselling offers a… Continue reading Benefits of Online Counselling for Men who are Gay and Married (to a woman) or Older Men Coming Out

Help for Men who are Gay and Married to a Woman or Coming Out Later in Life

How to deal with homosexual attraction and identity can be a big question for you if you are a man in your forties, fifties or older and you are questioning your sexuality or the way you live your life. And making decisions about family, wives, children and friends is one of the main reasons gay… Continue reading Help for Men who are Gay and Married to a Woman or Coming Out Later in Life